Amongst all the laughter, the bachelorette party shenanigans and flutes of champagne, there’s one important thing to remember: Your main job as a bridesmaid is to support the bride emotionally.
Now, we’re pretty sure you may have a few ideas on how to do that. After all, that’s probably why she chose you as a bridesmaid in the first place.
To be on the safe side though and ensure your emotional support game is polished, ready for the inevitable wedding planning stressors she’s bound to experience, we’ve got your back… so that you can have hers.
Here’s the best way to truly be there for the bride.
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Understand the Type of Emotional Support the Bride Needs
Some people just need someone to listen to them.
Other people welcome advice and a sounding board.
Some people tend to withdraw when they’re stressed, and aren’t all that comfortable asking for help even though they may really need it.
When it comes to emotional support, you know the bride well so probably have some ideas on how to be there for her, without her even needing to ask you.
But here’s the thing. Even if you think you know how to be there for her (after all, who doesn’t love it when a friend stops by after you’ve had a particular stressful time, clutching a bottle of red wine?!) it doesn’t hurt to ask, how can I be there for you? How can I help?
Perhaps there’s an element of wedding planning she’s having a particularly hard time wrapping her head around, or she’s worried about old family issues resurfacing during her special day.
Whatever it is, let her know that you’re there for her, ready to support her as best you can.
Bridesmaids Come Together as a United Front
You guys are already a unit in your gorgeous bridesmaid’s dresses, so keep it that way. The last thing the bride needs is squabbling or discord amongst her bridal party. Enjoy this opportunity to unite as one to support and encourage the bride.
Be flexible and willing to compromise. If differences should arise, try to settle them calmly and cordially while keeping the big picture in mind.
Validate Her Feelings (Without Taking on Her Stress)
If she’s worried, stressed, or struggling, validate her feelings.
If she’s receptive to it, you can always offer your perspective, a possible solution or way that you could help—perhaps offering to be a buffer between her and a particularly difficult family member.
Keep in mind it’s also important that you maintain your boundaries. Do your best to help and support her without absorbing her stress and making it your own.
Find Time for Fun
Meet at your favorite brunch spot, go for a picnic, or head up to the foothills and go for a hike in nature.
Even though there are a lot of aspects of wedding planning that are exciting and fun (who doesn’t love dress shopping for bridesmaid dresses and wedding gowns?!) it’s a good idea to take a break from it every now and then, and indulge in something completely unrelated to the wedding.
Be Responsive to Her Needs
Respond to her messages, and make an effort to check in with her regularly, without being too overbearing.
If there’s a decision she’s been having trouble making and you suddenly think of a solution or neat idea, text it to her.
Pay attention to what she’s telling you. If she has a big event coming up, something she’s worried about, or there’s something she needs your feedback or participation in, note it in your calendar.
Follow up with her, and when you ask her how she’s feeling, listen.
Wedding Day Support
The big day may be the day where you have to put your emotional support skills through their paces. There will be hugs and maybe some tears: be prepared for all the big emotions that come with such a beautiful life changing celebration.
Do your best to keep her calm and centered, and wrap her in your love and support.
Be ready to leave a deep meaningful discussion one moment, a conversation where you’ve both hugged each other and cried. Then transition from that incredibly moving connection into something totally mundane, like hunting down a safety pin.
If you support her through the big and little things, you’re doing exactly what’s required.
Conclusion:
Laughter and fun combined with emotional support—being there through it all—is what real lasting friendship is made of.
If you pay attention to her needs without completely discounting or neglecting your own, you’re bound to be exactly what she needs: A gorgeous friend who is willing to stand by her side, supporting her each step of the way.
